Healing from a broken heart

Having a heart broken is an experience close to death. No one can feel your pain as much as you with the depth of the hurt but only you can help yourself. Somethings are well learnt by going through similar experiences. And love is surely one such thing worth experiencing even if at some point it’s not meant to last.

We all survive on love, don’t we? Love is the best medicine and poison too, like opposite attracts so it’s the same in love.  In love and so in life we all have had different experiences with different people throughout the journey. Some we crushed on, some we became acquaintance with some became friends. And then few we liked more than a friend and may be less few than that got to know us closely. Who we were in love with or who loved us dearly.

For a very few the search stops when they meet the love that is committed to stay. But as the modern love says, some people never stop and keep hooping from here to there. Even if they have the best person next to them. We are no one to judge another person’s story, we all make our own choices and also suffer for the same to the love we best deserve. And however good are your intensions and that you love unconditionally. Some people on this journey of love are simply the lessons you needed to understand – what love is and what love is not.

Above all, healing from a broken heart is not a quick fix, it doesn’t have an instant medicine. Understanding the trauma or experience of an heart break is important. There are some heart breaks of grief that only time can heal. Of betrayals that damages the trust and personality to a level that you have no confidence to face life anymore. And then there is mutual end of a relationship, be it any it heals on its own pace. The pain of a broken heart is similar to loosing some part of your body. An experience close to death. The hurt, the numbness, the mixed feelings, not able to feel anything. Not knowing what to do with this void, to get us back to normal.

Like how in nature, everything heals on its own, heart is similar. You just have to be with it, never giving up, till the heart heals. That’s when one day all of a sudden, some magic strikes when you least expect it. Having your heart back with an added bonus of being able to love more and be loved. True love as in the bliss of love is experienced when your heart is so badly broken several times or all at once. That its cracked open now to that eternal lasting love that you spread around and that no one can take from you. Its god likely!

Time surely does help but we have to go hand in hand with time to let it heal. Few days or months of sleep or no sleep, not feeling normal to yourself, not wanting to go out or talk to anyone. Eating a lot or eating nothing at all, not knowing date- time and just surviving the days.

Every day will need a different you, some days indulging in some hobbies might help. Other days just going for a walk, being in nature or trip far to unknown may help. Physical activity is must- yoga or as simple as just run with your problems while you can’t run way from it.

And then the reality hits different when you understand healing is a life long process. Like waves, you will have certain emotions that comes all of a sudden and goes sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. The transformation, the learning can be different for each one, which makes one more human. It keeps you grounded, valuing the different perspectives, and to take nothing personally.

The one who have their love and life together are few truly blessed. But not all people are lucky, and we all have our own baggage’s that we come with that we have to accept of each other. And isn’t it a planned coincidence of the universe for you to be in love with that person even if it is for a while or whole lifetime. Lets be grateful for that and lets prepare ourselves better for someone to love us. I really hope we all find the love that stays and that we deserve soon.