Forgiveness

Do you think you can forgive easily? Forgiveness’ is a god like quality one possesses. It comes from such a greatness of a person’s character.  Do you agree that only the ones who really matter to you can hurt or forgive you? As we all know, Action speaks louder than words. Does one’s action in alignment with their words when asking for forgiveness. Is one humble enough to really accept their part of the story that needs an apology?

So many factors are important to be able to ask for forgiveness and to be able to forgive too. One of the most important factors is acceptance of the situation or person, accepting what really happened. And trust me it’s not an easy process, acceptance comes with time. When you acknowledge every struggle that you are going inside, stay with it for as long as it takes. And boom one day you hit that point where nothing really matters to you other than peace and solitude. That’s the time you have really free’ed yourself. Its always so important to ask for permission so that its not one sided. One can’t just say Sorry and get it all done, there has to be a mutual consent to listen and to forgive.

Most of the times, forgiveness is not about others, it is about you. It’s the most vulnerable part to forgive yourself first. We don’t realize holding on to something that has hurt us so deeply is where the real problem lies. The anger, the hatred, the frustration, the anxiety, the love, the wasted time and emotions for the situation. And people keep hurting us in so many different ways as we tend to cling to them. Its never about a decision to forgive someone, its about willingness to be free from that unwanted burden. It’s about releasing YOU matter more than anything that is been pulling you down. It’s never easy to forgive with the disappointment and hurt. Your expectations have had got an reality check.

Coming from a Jain community, though I only follow what suits me best and not all of it. Our Festival Paryushan is actually a very spiritual process and has many scientific reasons of why it is celebrated the way it is. The festival about self-purification and to uplift so that we can adhere to the ten universal virtues in our practical life successfully. A whole cluster of important human virtues—empathy, compassion, kindness, generosity, service, loyalty, patriotism (love of what is noble in one’s country), and forgiveness—make up the virtue of love. One of the big part of the festival is forgiveness’, we bow to all beings and especially to people who we have hurt all the year, everyday through our words, action or thoughts by saying Micchami Dukkadam- in literal way it means- May all the evil that has been done be in vain.